Shelly started the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
I’ve been divorced for 3 years after a 20 year marriage and have been dated a lovely man for a year.I’ve become a nightmare! I am jealous,possessive and hate sharing my boyfriend. I hate this about...
View ArticleShelly started the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
I’ve been divorced for 3 years after a 20 year marriage and have been dating a lovely man for a year.I’ve become a nightmare! I am jealous,possessive and hate sharing my boyfriend. I hate this about...
View ArticleShelly started the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
I’ve been divorced for 3 years after a 20 year marriage and have been dating a lovely man for a year.I’ve become a nightmare! I am jealous,possessive and hate sharing my boyfriend. I hate this about...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
My boyfriend is a happy go lucky person,he loves life and people. He has totally embraced my life with my 2 daughters,he has tolerated hassle from my ex boyfriends and been by my side when my daughter...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Yeah Inky,thankyou I agree. I do feel that they have a meaningful relationship with my boyfriend that took years to establish. That defo makes me feel disconnected to the situtaion. X
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Anita I was hoping you’d post a reply,I feel you give great advice to people.I feel less alone now and ‘normal’ as you are experiencing similar feelings to me.yes,I too would say I feel anger and...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Wow,I really get that. I would always burden my boyfriend with what was bothering me because he is so supportive and easy to talk to. I guess I treated him like my best friend but also by doing this he...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Ps Could you give me an example of how you shared your distress without making your husband feel resposible or blamed? I think that would really help me put it into my situation. Thankyou xx
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Thankyou so much for your reply. The example you gave of Thanksgiving is exactly how I would deal with a situation that would suit me but my boyfriend is telling me that because of this we are becoming...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Thankyou so much Anita for your response.My boyfriend has an 18 year old who lives 2 hours away and a 4 year old. The mum of the 4 year old is very volatile and has only recently allowed him to spend...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Thankyou for all your advice,Anita,my boyfriend has 100% ended things tonight. He just sees how we are too different.He too has concerns that I struggle with his daughters.I am quite gutted as I loved...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
I guess I’m feeling hurt and rejected. I know in past relationships on 2 occasions,he has given things another go but not with me. I left 2 people hurt in past relationships,so this is actually now me...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
I pushed him away time and time again,ended it several times! He always wanted to work it out,he always said he’d never go anywhere and there was nothing we couldn’t get through! I took him for...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
It us true,Anita,what you advised someone else in this forum about getting attached to people. That is definitely my case. My parents and brothers have moved away over the past few years. I was going...
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Hi there I don’t know if it would work for you but after my 20 year marriage broke down, I went on a dating site. This gave me back my confidence. I met some lovely men who very complimentary but I...
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David,I was on the site for over a year. I then met the most amazing man. I admit I screwed it up and he has recently broken up with me but there are lovely,interesting and genuine people on them. You...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Wow,you describe me well!! Lol. I have accepted it is over now I just can’t bare for him to disappear from my life( thats how he copes with a break up). He has agreed to meet tomorrow but he has made...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Ps I am the sort of person who sorts everyone out,makes sure everyone has what they need. You are right,I want to be taken care of,I want someone to share theload,make decisions,take off the pressure!...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
I had a great day with my boyfriend and now I have no option but to just move forward.so so sad,I messed up badly.He talked about being broken and he has much less love for me now.The tip of the...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
You are right,Anita,when I think of ‘outside’ our bubble I was really unhappy. I tried to end things many times because I just found his life too difficult to fit into( crazy as it was all nice things...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
I’m heartbroken,Anita, will it get easier?i know I don’t want to be in a relationship with this man but miss his friendship and company. I can’t stop crying,I am not sleeping or eating. Please give me...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Anita,I forgot to say that I did speak to him about me wanting to be his number one and to be cared for.That I am possesive over him because I have had people leave me etc. To be honest,looking back,he...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic It just blows my mind! in the forum Relationships
Jim How are things now? I’m still struggling with my breakup..has it got easier? Did you get in touch with her in the end? X
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
I’m a month in to this break up now but still feel bitter. This man said he would make me fall in love with him,did everything possible to be the best boyfriend. Met me after work,during my lunch...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
I’m a month in to this break up now but still feel bitter. This man said he would make me fall in love with him,did everything possible to be the best boyfriend. Met me after work,during my lunch...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Letting Go in the forum Relationships
This was such an inspirational post..it’s really making me think! Thankyou for sharing this and so happy you are now at peace x
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Drowning in my loneliness. in the forum...
Oh my gosh,I could have written this post…this describes me so well. I have a very small group of friends,that only works because they don’t put pressure on me to meet up etc,we are more casual. I have...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Thankyou Anita you make so much sense. I have put an email together for him but I’m not sure if I should send it. I had to get it off my chest how dismissed I feel and cast aside,how I feel he made...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
How does this sound? X I feel I’ve had to write you this email because you never allow me to finish what I say,you talk over me and don’t allow me to have my own opinion. I’m hurt and bitter because...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Anita,thankyou so so much for all your help and support,I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it. I didn’t send the email in the end,i wanted to sit on it for a couple of days before I did. Out of the...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
He didn’t turn up,contact me or anything! He is now hostile towards me and has no time for me. I accept it’s over but I am so shocked how someones feeling can change so dramatically in such a short...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Thankyou Anita for asking. I’m doing really well. I am staying busy and positive.This forum helps me daily look forward. I’m so sad about my break up,I adored him and loved him with all my heart but I...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Wisejo, I found this video VERY helpful,I really appreciate the recommendation. Thankyou x
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Can I change? in the forum Relationships
Thank you Sam wise, yeah I am taking care of my wellbeing.I don’t have contact with him now. I was the nightmare, I was hard work, I had tantrums and I demanded too much attention. I’ve learnt a lot...
View ArticleShelly started the topic My daughter is in a toxi relationship! in the forum...
My 18 year old daughter has been seeing this lad since New Year. This boy constantly screams in her face,accuses her of cheating if she even goes to the toilet,he doesnt believe her when she says she’s...
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My daughter believes she deserves to be treated this way,she feels her dad never made her feel loved or important! I tell her over and over how beautiful,smart and amazing she is.How proud I am of...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic My daughter is in a toxic relationship! in the...
Thankyou Anita,I would really appreciate your input xx
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic My daughter is in a toxic relationship! in the...
Thankyou so much. My daughter is being very open with me as I am,like you suggested,making a huge effort to just listen. She is confused and feels really bad that he is sending her constant messages...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Got lots to do today - in the forum Purpose
Hi there I just wanted to say,I always read your posts and I find them very inspirational,thank you
View ArticleShelly started the topic Rejection in the forum Relationships
I’ve posted before about my breakup and I am now 4 months into my breakup.I am just heartbroken!my ex has been so kind to me…I have tried everything to get him back..I text him,call him and make any...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Rejection in the forum Relationships
Ps. My mum knows me better than anyone on the planet and tells me over and over it will never work between us!I need to accept this but I just can’t seem to!!
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic Rejection in the forum Relationships
Thankyou so much for taking the time to respond.you make so much sense, I really appreciate your input.xx
View ArticleShelly started the topic to move or not to move?? in the forum Tough Times
I would really really appreciate some input please.I live in a beautiful home,area,close to my daughter,close to work etc.I can only get part time employment in my company and I’m struggling...
View ArticleShelly started the topic to move or not to move?? in the forum Tough Times
I would really really appreciate some input please.I live in a beautiful home,area,close to my daughter,close to work etc.I can only get part time employment in my company and I’m struggling...
View ArticleShelly replied to the topic APPRECIATION FOR ANITA in the forum Site Suggestions
I always read Anita’s replies and find them so inspiring, they have helped me a million times. Sending you the biggest hug I have,Anita xxx Thank you
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